Unbelievers are described by Muhammad (in the Quran) as “the vilest of animals” and “losers.” Christians and Jews are hated by Allah to the extent that they are destined for eternal doom as a result of their beliefs. It would make no sense for Muhammad to then recommend that they are taken as friends by Muslims. In fact, the Quran plainly orders believers not to take unbelievers as friends.
QURAN 4:144 O Ye who believe! Choose not disbelievers for your friends
Q5:51 O you who believe! Do not take the Jews and the Christians for friends; they are friends of each other, and whoever amongst you takes them for a friend, then surely he is one of them; surely Allah does not guide the unjust people.
QURAN 5:80 You will see many of them befriending those who disbelieve; certainly evil is that which their souls have sent before for them, that Allah became displeased with them and in chastisement shall they abide.
QURAN 53:29 Therefore shun those who turn away from Our Message…Even your own family members, should they not accept Islam, must be shunned. If a Muslim does not follow this advice, they are among the wrong-doers.
QURAN 9:23 O ye who believe! Choose not your fathers or your brethren for friends if they take pleasure in disbelief rather than faith. Whoso of you takes them for friends, such are wrong-doersFrom the example of Muhammad, who is recorded in the hadiths as saying not even his fathers, i.e. relatives, could be his friends, the dissection of family, community and humanity become a necessity under Islam.
SAD41:4815 The Prophet said: A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes as the friend.Muhammad, in essence, had a grave inferiority complex about his cult and recognized the association of his followers with those who saw through his spurious revelations as a major threat to his mission; hence his forbidding of any friendships even with mother, father, siblings, and children.Friendly relationships with the kuffar would be quite difficult knowing well that you are recommended in the Qur’an to hack off their necks and then slice off their finger tips.
Apparently, the severing of the unbelievers’ necks is not sufficient for Allah. He has to make sure that the fingertips of the corpses are also hacked off.Allah does, however, make allowance for Muslim men to marry women from among the Jews and Christians, however not from among the Hindus, Buddhists, atheists or any non-Abrahamic god worshipping group. The women of Islam, though, do not have the option to marry outside of the religion. Verse 5:5 of the Qur’an makes not only the women of the People of the Book lawful but also their food.
5:5 This day are all things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. Lawful unto you in marriage are chaste women who are believers, and chaste women from among the People of the Book, revealed before your time. However, prior to revealing this verse, Allah in Qur’an 2:221 had prohibited marriage between Muslims and unbelievers, saying it was better for a Muslim to marry a believing slave than to marry a kafir who would apparently attract them to the Hell fire.
2:221 Do not marry unbelieving women, until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry your girls to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do but beckon you to the Fire. In this verse, the word mushrik (one who commits shirk) is used for unbelievers. Some translators today render it in English simply as ‘idolaters’ to avoid contradiction with verse 5.5. However, shirk means the sin of worshipping other than Allah or associating other beings with Allah which would essentially include the People of the Book mentioned in verse 5.5.Why the change of heart from on high, one might ask? It would appear that verse 5:5 allowing the marriage of Muslim men to Christian women, was another one of those concessions made by Allah to please the desires of his final prophet. Allah’s amendment corresponded somewhat curiously with Muhammad’s own desire to marry a non-Muslim woman, the twenty-year-old Mariyah al-Qibtiyaa. Of course, a non-believing woman marrying a Muslim man would have to adopt the religion of her husband, as would the children.A woman converting to Islam and coming to the Muslims has her marriage automatically annulled from her unbelieving husband and becomes lawful to Muslim men. Her kafir husband is apparently now unlawful for her. Allah’s concern about women joining the fold appears more related to their availability for marriage as opposed to any religious or spiritual development.
Q60:10 When believing women come to you, test their faith. If you ascertain that they are believers, then do not send them back to the unbelievers. They are no longer lawful wives of the unbelievers and the unbelievers are no longer lawful as husbands for them. But pay the unbelievers their dowry and there will be no blame on you if ye marry them. But hold not to the guardianship of unbelieving women…
The Hadith makes it clear that Muslims are allowed to lie to unbelievers in order to defeat them or protect themselves. There are several forms:
Taqiyya – Saying something that isn’t true as it relates to the Muslim identity.
Kitman – Lying by omission. An example would be when Muslim apologists quote only a fragment of verse 5:32 (that if anyone kills “it shall be as if he had killed all mankind”) while neglecting to mention that the rest of the verse (and the next) mandate murder in undefined cases of “corruption” and “mischief.”
Tawriya – Intentionally creating a false impression.
Quran (16:106) – Establishes that there are circumstances that can “compel” a Muslim to tell a lie.Quran (3:28) – This verse tells Muslims not to take those outside the faith as friends, unless it is to “guard themselves” against danger, meaning that there are times when a Muslim may appear friendly to non-Muslims, even though they should not feel friendly.
Quran (9:3) – “…Allah and His Messenger are free from liability to the idolaters…” The dissolution of oaths is with pagans who remained at Mecca following its capture. They did nothing wrong, but were evicted anyway. (The next verse refers only to those who have a personal agreement with Muhammad as individuals – see Ibn Kathir vol 4, p 49)
Quran (66:2) – “Allah has already ordained for you the dissolution of your oaths…”
Quran (40:28) – A man is introduced as a believer, but one who had to “hide his faith” among those who are not believers.
Quran (2:225) – “Allah will not call you to account for thoughtlessness in your oaths, but for the intention in your hearts”
Quran (3:54) – “And they (the disbelievers) schemed, and Allah schemed (against them): and Allah is the best of schemers.” The Arabic word used here for scheme (or plot) is Makara, which literally means ‘deceit’. If Allah is supremely deceitful toward unbelievers, then there is little basis for denying that Muslims are allowed to do the same. (See also 8:30 and 10:21)
Taken collectively these verses are interpreted to mean that there are circumstances when a Muslim may be “compelled” to deceive others for a greater purpose.
Hadith and Sira
Sahih Bukhari (52:269) – “The Prophet said, ‘War is deceit.'” The context of this is thought to be the murder of Usayr ibn Zarim and his thirty unarmed companions by Muhammad’s men after they were “guaranteed” safe passage (see Additional Notes below).
Sahih Bukhari (49:857) – “He who makes peace between the people by inventing good information or saying good things, is not a liar.” Lying is permitted when the end justifies the means.
Sahih Bukhari (84:64-65) – Speaking from a position of power at the time, Ali confirms that lying is permitted in order to deceive an “enemy.”
Sahih Muslim (32:6303) – “…he did not hear that exemption was granted in anything that the people speak as lie but in three cases: in battle, for bringing reconciliation amongst persons and the narration of the words of the husband to his wife, and the narration of the words of a wife to her husband (in a twisted form in order to bring reconciliation between them).”
Sahih Bukhari (50:369) – Recounts the murder of a poet, Ka’b bin al-Ashraf, at Muhammad’s insistence. The men who volunteered for the assassination used dishonesty to gain Ka’b’s trust, pretending that they had turned against Muhammad. This drew the victim out of his fortress, whereupon he was brutally slaughtered.
From Islamic Law:
Reliance of the Traveler (p. 746 – 8.2) – “Speaking is a means to achieve objectives. If a praiseworthy aim is attainable through both telling the truth and lying, it is unlawful to accomplish through lying because there is no need for it. When it is possible to achieve such an aim by lying but not by telling the truth, it is permissible to lie if attaining the goal is permissible (N:i.e. when the purpose of lying is to circumvent someone who is preventing one from doing something permissible), and obligatory to lie if the goal is obligatory… it is religiously precautionary in all cases to employ words that give a misleading impression… (See the Permissible Lying section on the Sharia page for more)
“One should compare the bad consequences entailed by lying to those entailed by telling the truth, and if the consequences of telling the truth are more damaging, one is entitled to lie.”
Islam is a conquest doctrine and if an Imam calls on his people to rise up. It would fail if Muslims had formed friendships with non Muslims.